Remembering Bernard Gotlieb: Despite health challenges he made a true mark on the community
March 13, 2025
I was deeply saddened to learn about the passing of Bernard Gotlieb, a lifelong resident of Côte Saint-Luc who endured significant health problems for most of his life yet he always kept a smile on his face and maintained a good attitude life.
A number of years ago I invited Bernard to Royal Vale School in NDG where he recounted his courageous battle with leukemia, the loss of two legs and why he decided to publish his own memoirs. He was a familiar face at that school and others for the popular chess club he ran several days a week.
In 1977, 19-year-old Bernard was living a happy middle class existence in his native Côte St. Luc, which included a passion for the word game Scrabble. However, during a plane trip home from a winter vacation in Florida, he experienced some blockage in his ears, and went to see a doctor who was starting his new G.P. practice. Because the doctor was seeing him for the first time, he was subjected to a battery of medical procedures, including a blood test. When the blood test results looked slightly irregular, the doctor requested another one. The end result was a rather startling one: he was diagnosed with leukemia. Back in the late 70s, leukemia was practically a death sentence, and any treatments that were available were debilitating, painful and had no guarantee of success. However, such a dire diagnosis did not deter Bernard, as he decided to embark upon a six-week trip to Israel, pursued a degree in tourism management and established his own Scrabble Club (which was still in operation).
In June of 1979, Bernrard decided to take a major step in his battle against leukemia: a bone marrow transplant (which was still in the experimental stages) that was only available at the Princess Margaret Hospital in Toronto. And on top of that, his sister Gloria’s marrow was a compatible match, and was more than happy to take that risky measure of donating it towards increasing the chances of her brother’s survival against that dreaded disease. As a result, he became one of the first leukemia patients to undergo – and survive -- a bone marrow transplant in Canada, a treatment that is so common these days. The story of Bernard Gotlieb’s up and down road to successfully battling leukemia is told in honest, personal detail in his privately-published memoir “Hey What Happened To You?” He chronicles his struggles with a lot of with a lot of humanity and humour, and the message the reader gets is that through the more than 30 years since his diagnosis and subsequent bone marrow transplant, Bernard never gave up on the idea of beating this disease, and restoring himself to his normal way of life and pursuing the passions that kept him going through such difficult times.
Difficulties Bernard endured included infections, a series of extended hospital stays, injuries, accidents, operations, medical procedures, financial strains, a brain tumour, and a worsening skin condition that led to the amputation of both his legs. Yet somehow, through the love and support of friends and family (not to mention his continuing passion for Scrabble and his Scrabble club), he has managed to maintain busy life, in which he ran a games class at multiple schools.
Bernard also tutored students in math, French, English and Spanish at his home. He also had a special adapted vehicle. Bernard had a great sense of humour. Besides the extraordinary support he received from his family, including his late parents, a word must go out to his lifelong neighbor Bram Weinstein who was as devoted as they come.
Tributes have been pouring in for Bernard. “My son developed a love of chess through Bernard’s kind and gentle guidance at Royal Vale School,” commented Cindy Blauer. “He shared his list with me of two letter Scrabble words, which I will always treasure. Bernard exhibited strength, determination and acceptance, humbly modelling what it takes to live life to its fullest.”
Stephen Caplan was his physician at the time of his initial diagnosis many years ago. “Even at that time, I realized that he was a very special person,” he said. “No matter what he was facing, he always faced it with optimism and resilience. At the time, there was no curative treatment for his disease, except for the risky bone marrow transplant which he ultimately had. He was always upbeat and positive, even at times when the complications of the transplant caused severe disability.”
Liat Lev-Ary Goldstein recalls Bernard being her tutor 35 years ago when she first arrived to Montreal from Israel as a Grade 11 student. “I met him four times a week for a few months to work on different subjects,” she said. “Many years later, I met him again, this time at Royal Vale where he taught my four children chess in the afternoon program. His valour, courage and strength over the years never ceased to amaze and impress me. His positive attitude was also admirable.”
Robin Pollock Daniel noted how she met Bernard about 41 years ago, venturing into the Montreal Scrabble Club at the behest of her backdoor neighbour, Fran Silver, and began an adventure into a competitive world whose inevitable bumps and bruises were made tolerable by the grace and good humour of Bernard. “From hesitating to match me at the club with far superior players because I wasn't good enough yet, to graduating me from seven-letter prize-winning anagram puzzles to the vaunted 9s as my skills grew, he shepherded my and every player's growth to make the Montreal club the most admired one in all of Scrabble, with a string of World Champions – quite a feat considering Canada's comparatively low population and, oh yeah, those tournaments didn't use our usual, much smaller, dictionary,” she said. “At the Baltimore Nationals he wanted to go to the baseball game and had no one to take him. He would have gone alone, in his wheelchair, with thousands marching past him, such was his strength of determination. Tthankfully I learned of it and was able to accompany him; he inspired fierce loyalty and protectiveness. I have never met a kinder soul, and his ability to not just tolerate his afflictions, but to soar in spite of them, has helped me through my own illnesses, as I frequently think of him at those times. In Scrabble we have a saying with regard to making the best play: ‘What would Nigel do?’ But for all of life's trials and tribulations, I often think, ‘What would Bernard do?’ I can only aspire to reach the levels of optimism and acceptance that Bernard habitually achieved, and I will never match his grace. But I will keep thinking of him, as I'm sure you all will, too, and keep his memory alive and as a blessing for us all.”
Rest in Peace Bernard!